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The Undercurrent of Narcissism – Silent Signs of a Real Problem

Narcissism, Narcissistic Abuse and Trauma are becoming part of our awareness. We are becoming familiar with the overt warning signs that your new date is an abusive narcissist. But what about the subtle or silent signs, the ones that seem perfectly okay with an explanation. What about those signs? They are equally important when you […]

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January 7, 2019

Is His Nice For Real? Unmasking the Narcissist

I hear this a lot: “I miss the good parts of him so much it hurts.” The good parts? Did they ever truly exist? No. The good parts you thought you saw were really his mask. That’s his reel you back in with his good boy mask. That’s his false love. He will give you a […]

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December 18, 2018

Does Low Self-Esteem Attract Abusive Narcissists?

Confessions of a Wallflower or How my extremely low (almost non-existent) self-esteem attracted abusive narcissists and shitty relationships into my life. People often comment on my confidence and ability to be myself and how easily I mingle and laugh. But I was not always that girl. During my childhood, I went to 23 different schools […]

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November 9, 2018

Are You Settling for an Abusive Relationship?

My heart hurts today as I sit in emotional pain with my clients, as they struggle to let go of an unhealthy, abusive, narcissistic, toxic relationship that they have a death grip on. A relationship that does not support them emotionally, mentally, physically or spiritually. An abusive relationship that is killing them. How do I […]

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November 3, 2018

How to Save Money to Leave Your Abusive Relationship

One of the biggest obstacles women have for leaving is lack of money. They are often cut off from all the financial decisions in the household and have no direct access to saving money. You want to leave your abusive relationship desperately but you start thinking about all the things you will have to make […]

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September 17, 2018

5-signs Your New Love is Abusive

You’ve met this fabulous guy and things are moving quickly but is it too quickly. Are you headed down a path to heartache? Is his love toxic? Is he showing you signs of abusive behaviour? Here are 5-signs your new love is abusive:   I Love YOU within the first 2 or 3 times seeing […]

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September 10, 2018

3-Skills to Master Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

Leaving your abusive narcissist is a big courageous step and you get to shut the door on that chapter of your life. Unless you and your abuser have children. Then the door has to remain open and you find yourself in the painful place of having to co-parent with a narcissist, an abuser, and the […]

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September 2, 2018

Why Are So Many Men Emotionally Unavailable?

Why are men emotionally unavailable? Because you are! And once you realize your role in attracting abusive men, you’ve taken a powerful, courageous step on your healing journey. This is a pic of me and my love on our wedding day 4 years ago. I finally have the partner I never thought even existed because my relationship experience […]

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August 27, 2018

The 3-Cs of Healing After Abuse

When I left my toxic-abusive husband, I was thrust into the “system”.  At first, I thought this is fabulous.  I’m going to get help and get well. I was going to begin healing after abuse. I couldn’t wait to get started and begin to really heal and move forward. That’s not exactly what happened and […]

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August 20, 2018

Deciding to Leave Your Abuser is Tough

And the best decision you will every make. The single most important decision that any woman experiencing abuse will make is the decision to leave or stay. Deciding to leave is tough. You may have financial worries or anxious thoughts about how you will manage. Your self-worth and confidence is at its lowest point; battered […]

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August 13, 2018

3 Big Bold Steps to Kick-Start Healing

When I first left my abuser, I was obsessed and I mean obsessed, with finding the reason why he did what he did.  I had rationalized that if I discovered what was wrong with him, I could move on and get started on living my life again. Problem – when I focused on him, I […]

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August 6, 2018

Anticipatory Fear: A Total Mind Fu$k

I remember sitting in my big house, thinking about leaving him. The spiral of fearful thoughts that took over my mind was terrifying. One thought leads to another that led to the next. It was vibrant and felt so real. I was shaking in terror and all because of anticipatory fear. It works on your […]

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July 23, 2018

Healing Begins with Personal Responsibility

I want to talk about how one question changed my way of thinking and as a result improved my life dramatically. Actually, it made me take personal responsibility and that’s where the magic happens. I have clients who will say to me I want to be like you to which I respond You Can with a little […]

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July 16, 2018

Not Love. Your Abuser Has Made You Dependent

One of the most common phrases I hear from women who are staying with their abuser is, “I Love Him.” Well, that may sound all Cinderella and lovely, but it’s a very misleading and dangerous statement. You see, the idea of love is extremely powerful. When we believe we love someone, we will stop at […]

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July 9, 2018

For the Moms Who Think the Kids are Okay

You are a woman and a mom experiencing an abusive, narcissistic, toxic, and maybe physically violent relationship and it’s shit – I know. But for the moms who think the kids are okay and maybe staying is better than leaving, consider the following truths For the moms wondering if their babies pick up on the […]

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July 3, 2018

Now that You’re My Wife I Will Abuse You

It was a whirlwind romance.  The kind where you’re swept off your feet and left breathless.  He was handsome, rugged, and passionate.  He bought me and my beautiful daughters a beautiful big house with a backyard. I fell deeply, madly in love. He pushed to get married and I thought why not.  We had been […]

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June 27, 2018

5-Ways to Begin Healing After Abuse

So, you have split from your abuser and you feel like your heart has been ripped out of your chest. It hurts – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  Everything Hurts!  You feel torn apart, used, and valueless. It’s over and you’re happy about that but the pain that you’re experiencing seems unmanageable. Right now you’re […]

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June 24, 2018

Asking for Self-Responsibility is Not Victim-Blaming

I want to begin this post by stating I get the whole “boys need to be raised to respect women” argument and agree with it 1,000 percent. Let’s get on that mission and decrease our rate of creating abusive, nasty men and bullies. In the meantime though we have an epidemic of women tolerating abuse. […]

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June 13, 2018

4-signs You are Entering the Narcissistic Abuse Danger Zone

Early Warning Signs That the Person You’re Dating Is A Narcissist You meet someone and he’s handsome, attentive, and seems to get lost in your words and feelings. He listens to every word you say and asks personal questions to get to know you better. He finds you fascinating and wants to know all about […]

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May 21, 2018

7 Questions to Discover if Your Relationship is Abusive

  Healing from an abusive, toxic relationship is a 3-Phase journey. Discovery | Acceptance | Empowered Phase One is Discovery – asking questions that will reveal the true nature of your relationships. Discovery is all about exploring what’s going on, processing the information, and discovering the truth of your relationship. When you’re in a narcissistic, […]

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April 18, 2018