Are You Settling for an Abusive Relationship?
My heart hurts today as I sit in emotional pain with my clients, as they struggle to let go of an unhealthy, abusive, narcissistic, toxic relationship that they have a death grip on. A relationship that does not support them emotionally, mentally, physically or spiritually. An abusive relationship that is killing them.
How do I know? Because in so many words they tell me. They make excuses for staying in the relationship and blame their partner for their own unhappiness. They believe that if they can change their partner they will finally be happy.
They are overwhelmed and weary from trying so hard to make the relationship work and they fluctuate between wanting to stay and wanting to go. They’ve lost touch with who they are, how they want to feel and what they want for their future.
What they don’t realize is that making a decision from fear doesn’t lead to happiness. Focusing on what to do to change someone else does not lead to a fulfilling relationship – it leads you down a dead end.
The dead end of settling. They are giving up on happiness and true love. They are quitting on themselves and putting all their love and energy into a dead end project – their abusive partner. They have quit on life and it’s terribly sad.
I know from personal experience what it’s like to settle for an abusive relationship. For a narcissistic who doesn’t give a shit about you, your children, or anything other than themselves. I know what it’s like to walk on eggshells every single day. I know what’s it like to become submissive so you can gain peace and quiet.
But that’s not healthy! That’s settling. Quitting. Giving Up. Forgetting about You. Tossing yourself aside like an old worn shoe.
You deserve passionate, compassionate, empathetic, warm, abundant true love from your partner. But more importantly, you deserve that love from You to You. Giving yourself the love and respect you deserve will be reflected in your other relationships. You will show up as a woman of value and be treated the same way.
The longest relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. How’s that going?
If you feel you have lost touch with your intuition, if you are wondering where your best self went in the relationship you are in – you have to stop focusing outside yourself for answers. The answers are within.
The solution is in the self-discovery work that is necessary to get in touch with exactly what you want, knowing what your heart desires, and tapping into the courage to grow your confidence to go after it.
Don’t settle. It doesn’t serve you or the person you’re with. Rise up. Claim the lead. I can help you!
I’ve been there. I’ve transformed the struggle. If I can do it. You can certainly do it too!
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