Healing Begins with Personal responsibility

Healing Begins with Personal Responsibility

I want to talk about how one question changed my way of thinking and as a result improved my life dramatically. Actually, it made me take personal responsibility and that’s where the magic happens.

I have clients who will say to me I want to be like you to which I respond You Can with a little work and authenticity!  There is no magic pill, potion or spell that I can prescribe that will make you get up in the morning with a smile on your face looking forward to the day as an adventure in the making.  The prescription writer is YOU!

Not too long ago I found myself dreading the mornings.  I would wake up thinking yuck, another friggin’ day, when will this end, what is the purpose of getting up!  I was dreary to say the least with absolutely no plans for the future and nothing to look forward to.  I was on the cusp of filling my prescription for anti-depressants. I was low and the few friends I had probably hated to hear from me.

I had no money.  I had a dead-end job in a big shiny corporate office.  I squeezed myself into a subway car at a god-awful hour of the morning to be surrounded by miserable looking lemmings.  I had a relationship that had run its course.  I had decided that my present and future would be lonely, broke, and defeated.

Sound Familiar?!?  I’m sure there are folks reading this right now who can relate to how I was feeling about life and you’re wondering how did I turn it around.

It started with a good and true friend.  They are the friends who ask you the hard questions. These are the friends you want.  Tip:  Get rid of the nodders!

We were having a coffee and I was doing my usual life is so rotten, I hate my life, blah, blah, blah. She kept asking me one question:

So, What Are You Going to Do About It?

What a stupid, irritating question!  I was livid.  I was genuinely pissed. I wanted her to find the solution for me, NOW! For some odd reason, my friend wouldn’t cooperate and kept asking me that question.  I went home and decided I would not be friends with her anymore which of course, added to my Down on Life Story.

A strange thing was happening though…..I couldn’t get that question out of my head!  When I would think about my finances and wanted to wallow in self-pity, this little voice would ask “Well, Susan, what are you going to do about it?”  The question followed me everyday and everywhere. I wanted to answer the question just so it would go away!

To begin your journey of personal responsibility and empowered her, here are your first steps:

  1. Honestly think about your friends and family and determine who are the “nodders”.  Nodders will not help you in your journey.  Drop them from your friends list and replace them with true friends who will ask you to be accountable to you.
  2. When you find yourself feeling down because you’re thinking about your debts, or how you will never be able to travel to Australia, or how you will be stuck in your dead-end job forever,

STOP, take a deep breath and ask

“So, __(your name)__________, what are you going to do about it?”

That one question will step you out of self-pity, victim thinking which will get you nowhere. Absolutely nowhere.

So, what are you going to do about it?

If you want a chance to talk, ask questions, and get some extra support, just click here to find a spot on my calendar~ sending you much love always

July 16, 2018